Kaizen Chaos

So I was going to copy and paste a blog I wrote about 6 years ago, right about the time I started seeing “Mr. Ex”. Unfortunately I haven’t accessed that site for several years so it is now gone.

Anyhow, it was quite the cynical discussion on traditional marriage and how I didn’t believe in the one and only person with the perfect little house with a white picket fence and 2.5 children living happily ever after (at least for myself).  I went on to discuss the potential of having open relationships and possibly even an open marriage. (Ironically, I proposed to “Mr. Ex” less than a year after I wrote it. What the hell was I thinking? Didn’t I read my own writing? StupidGirl must’ve been in control.) So anyway, I will pose a similar question again without the links to the websites and studies about such situations….Do you think it is possible to find happiness in having more than one mate if/when you can’t find the one person who can fulfill all your needs? I know this is a delicate subject, and I’m not trying to bash monogamy or marriage in any way. I’m just trying to open my mind to other possibilities because let’s face it, the dimensions of relationships and what is socially acceptable is changing. Divorce is no longer the taboo it once was. Blended families are almost the norm. I, myself will soon be somewhat damaged goods having already wasted my one chance at a white wedding. (Though I never cared much about a frilly wedding and would have rather eloped on the beach.)

I’m fully aware that going forward should I meet Mr. Right I will likely have to deal with Mrs. Ex-Right and/or Little Right, Jr. and his sister. I’m not thrilled, but it’s certainly something I need to understand as I merge back into single-life, slightly older and a little jaded considering whether or not I ever want to have another serious relationship.

On the other hand, I was amazed and intrigued when I recently met a great guy who is older than me, has never been married and has no children because “it was never one of his aspirations.” So far he appears to be the happiest or at least the most content person I’ve ever met. He loves and fully enjoys life to the extreme with no restraints. I think he may be onto something…and just maybe I’ll be lucky enough to absorb a little bit of that whatever-you-want-to-call-it through some sort of freakish human osmosis.

That leaves me wondering if I could be a happier person if monogamy, or at least marriage, was no longer one of my aspirations?

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